Eliminate Drama

I have a friend that I used to work with a few years ago. For some reason, we clicked - able to laugh a lot, talk about the kids, just smart women who got to know each other. This blog post is from her Facebook page. Makes perfect sense to me! Thanks to 'The Rose'.

No Drama!!! Keep your drama out of my life!!! There comes a time in life when you have to let go of
all the pointless drama and the people who create it and surround
yourself with people who make you laugh so hard that you forget the
bad and focus solely on the good. After all, life is too short to be
anything but happy.

Life Philosophy of Charles Schulz

The following is the philosophy of Charles Schulz, the creator of the 'Peanuts' comic strip.

You don't have to actually answer the questions.  Just read straight through, and you'll get the point.

1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world.

2. Name the last five Heisman trophy winners.

3. Name the last five winners of the Miss America pageant.
4. Name ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer Prize.
5. Name the last half dozen Academy Award winners for best actor and actress.
6. Name the last decade's worth of World Series winners.


How did you do?


The point is, none of us remember the headliners of yesterday.  These are no second-rate achievers.
They are the best in their fields.  But the applause dies..
Awards tarnish.
Achievements are forgotten.
Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners..

Here's another quiz. See how you do on this one:


1. List a few teachers who aided your journey through school.
2. Name three friends who have helped you through a difficult time.
3. Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile.
4. Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special!!
5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.


Easier?


The lesson:
The people who make a difference in your life are not the ones with the most credentials..
The most money...or the most awards.
They simply are the ones who care the most.

''Be Yourself. Everyone Else Is Taken!"

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Right in Front of You

The Solution

Sometimes what we are looking for is standing right there in front of us.  Funny situation I found myself in, my 17 year old son decided that mom needed a pep talk...and guess what?  He gave me the talking to of my life - about how to be a winner, think like a winner, how going through obstacles makes us stronger.  He was simply amazing.

Don't look too far for support and solutions

 -they are usually right there in front of you!

Get the Best from Others with Your Positive Attitude

Ever have a day when the whole house is in a bad mood because one person is in a bad mood? Or it’s a bad day at work, because the boss is having a bad day? Our attitude is reflected in those around us. To get the best from the people around you, start with a fresh and positive attitude and try the following:

• Turn negative thoughts into positive thoughts – your own or those of others

• Keep a ‘grateful list’ and add something to it everyday

• Look for the bright side of every situation

• Help someone in a time of need

• Say ‘Good Morning’ and mean it

• Push yourself through tough situations

• Smile


It only takes one positive action to change your attitude and the attitude of those around you – do one thing every day to make your attitude a positive one.

The Power of Being

I spend time every once in a while, trying to see myself in the mirror of my life. Not simply looking in a mirror –(kind of shocking some mornings), I look to find myself, and I see that I am happy with my life and where I am. If you know all about me, you would know that this makes perfect sense. I am living in a new place physically, and in a great place mentally and emotionally. It took me a long time to understand that I am a pretty good person. I love and support my family, my job allows me to help others grow, along with my husband we teach our kids about what is good and right, we teach them that they can be whoever they want to be and to not limit themselves. It is the power of BEing.
What on earth is the power of BE-ing, you ask? The power of BE-ing is finding yourself physically present in your life. Putting yourself in touch with each person in your life and understanding that your time and attention means the most to them, and it is important to BE in their life with them. How wonderful is that?
Looking at the examples from my life, perhaps there are ways you can apply the power of Being to your life.
• Take Risks: the company I worked for closed and I was already starting my own business the following week. A little crazy in this economy - maybe. Fortunately my husband has a good job and we have been able to let me work through start-up to get it off the ground. Don't get me wrong, I loved my old job - had lots of fun, loved the people and it is really what inspired me to focus on being who I am at heart.
• Try New Things: failure is simply a step on the way to success. I have tried a few different marketing ideas for my new company. Some not producing the results I was expecting. I haven’t stopped marketing though. I have taken what I have learned and applied it to new projects and am starting to see positive results.
• Learn: to get rolling in this new world of entrepreneurship, there is a great deal to learn. Whether it’s about accounting or internet advertising or how to blog….my days are full and very interesting. The more I learn and try, the more I want to do. Interesting thing is, by learning, I have been able to teach my family about blogging and now they are all actively participating in cyber-space through their own blogs.
• Listen: put down whatever is in your hands or move away from whatever is in front of you, look the person in the face and really listen to what they have to say. My youngest son likes to watch horror movies – I do not. He also likes to talk about them, so no matter what I am doing I stop and listen to his descriptions of the movie he has just finished watching, even if I can’t stand it and he understands that, he knows how I am ready to listen, for anything he is ready to discuss. Having teenagers in the house, it is amazing how they appreciate your ability to listen when you least expect it. All of a sudden they confide in you. Not usual for most teens. I set the listening example early in their lives. They understood that I would always listen to whatever they had to say. They knew that at times this would be difficult if there was a problem or situation to resolve. I explained to them that sometimes listening may upset me, but I would let them talk until they were done and then I would respond. This built trust – a valuable resource. One time, I even had to walk away before I could respond so that I could think about how to handle the situation. In the end, they came to me with 3 options on how to handle the situation and together we agreed on the best route.
• Participate: this is the essence of Being. Finding time in our busy days to participate in each other’s lives actually helps us to stretch and grow. Taking time to pick up my son’s friend to take them to soccer practice helped me meet new people and get involved with the team because of my quasi-expertise on website management. Not to mention the fact that this is the first activity that my son has willingly engaged in outside of his Xbox and actually enjoyed. Is he the best player on his team? Not yet! But he is excited to be a part of this team!
• Share: our dinner table conversation is full of excitement and interest because we share how are day went, ask lots of questions, plan for the next day and have conversation. It is an amazing change that happens in a family when there is time to eat together. And no matter hwo much the boys bicker and argue at the table, I let on that I am aggravated by their lack of communication bu they know it is music to my ears. It is genuine, each member of the family supports the other and they actually want to know, to celebrate successes together, listen and exchange ideas.
• Laugh: everyday – no excuses! Life is way too short to take it so seriously. Sometimes even when you really want to scream and yell if you take a deep breath and laugh, the problem or situation does not seem so bad and you can work through it easier.

By setting the example by taking risks, laughing, participating and sharing, you can see that anything is possible if you just believe in the power of BEing. So have you found yourself in the mirror yet? Are you ready to subject yourself to the amazing and wonderful things life has to hand you when you give in to the power of Being? Go ahead and look in the mirror…see who you are…and BE.

Personal Leadership through Community

I was fortunate enough to host and attend a first time ever event for our community called the Chick - Fil-A Leadercast on May 7, 2010.

I was pleasantly surprised by the number and variety of attendees, most of whom stayed until the end. It was a super day of speakers on leadership. What they all had in common was the fact that they spoke on personal leadership - it is difficult to separate the person from the profession and so leadership of self is what makes you who you are no matter where you are - at home, in the community and at work.

To see details from the event and notes from speakers, please visit www.solutionlinx.com.




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You Only Have One FIRST....

Firsts take courage, a positive frame, a willingness to face fears and sometimes a little push to get through the door. There is nothing like the feeling of getting through a first of any kind to give us affirmation that we can do anything.



Let’s look at these ‘firsts’ and see what we can recall - thoughts, feelings, emotions, what the weather was like, what we wore, who was present – almost a visualization exercise. If you have not experienced these firsts, get ready to think about what feelings and emotions are going to pop into your mind by simply reading about them. Face it – these firsts are days that are made for us to live in the moment and overcome our fears.


My First…


…day at school. What was that like? Can you remember elementary school? High School? Or College/university? You were ready to show the whole world who you were, what you were made of and started to plan where you were going to go next. You were excited, apprehensive and even a little happy to be starting this new part of your life.


…my first job interview. What to say? How do I dress? Will I have to work here for the rest of my life? What questions will they ask? Who will be interviewing me? Feeling like you aced the interview and then didn’t get the job or just the opposite, feeling that you really blew it and did get the job – what a learning experience! And who knew you could ask questions in an interview too – next time you will be more prepared for that one.


…date! OMG! Talk about a scary time. To hold hands or not to, what to wear, what to say, how to act? Dates are where you open yourself up to the biggest part of yourself and others. Imagine how you felt. What other event could make you feel this way? Imagine where this first day could lead – to more dates and a huge future together…or to no more dates, chalking this one up to experience.


…day at work! WOW! What a challenge in front of you? Getting to know your boss, your co-workers and maybe even your competition for the next position on the ladder. Whether it was a job at the local corner store or in that big corporate office, you started to take new steps in new directions. You shed the parts of yourself that you were not happy with and vowed to be the BEST You you could possibly be.


There will always be more firsts ahead of you – move to a new home or neighborhood, move to a new city, travel to new place, joining a community or professional group, speaking engagement, presentation – the list could go on forever! Personal growth and development is more urgent today than ever so use this list when a first comes along:


1. Be prepared: know time, place, date, how to get there, how to dress, why you are experiencing this ‘first’.


2. Plan your outlook: do you need to practice or rehearse? Do you need to wear something special? Are you in a positive frame of mind to experience the whole situation? Are you ready to be open and potentially meet new people/circumstances that could change your life?


3. Practice affirmation: no matter what the results, you will always learn something. Look for the positive in the situation. You are taking a huge step in a new direction – Way to go! Be proud of yourself and remind yourself how awesome you really are!


Be on your way to many ‘firsts’ – HAPPY FIRST….





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