You Only Have One FIRST....

Firsts take courage, a positive frame, a willingness to face fears and sometimes a little push to get through the door. There is nothing like the feeling of getting through a first of any kind to give us affirmation that we can do anything.



Let’s look at these ‘firsts’ and see what we can recall - thoughts, feelings, emotions, what the weather was like, what we wore, who was present – almost a visualization exercise. If you have not experienced these firsts, get ready to think about what feelings and emotions are going to pop into your mind by simply reading about them. Face it – these firsts are days that are made for us to live in the moment and overcome our fears.


My First…


…day at school. What was that like? Can you remember elementary school? High School? Or College/university? You were ready to show the whole world who you were, what you were made of and started to plan where you were going to go next. You were excited, apprehensive and even a little happy to be starting this new part of your life.


…my first job interview. What to say? How do I dress? Will I have to work here for the rest of my life? What questions will they ask? Who will be interviewing me? Feeling like you aced the interview and then didn’t get the job or just the opposite, feeling that you really blew it and did get the job – what a learning experience! And who knew you could ask questions in an interview too – next time you will be more prepared for that one.


…date! OMG! Talk about a scary time. To hold hands or not to, what to wear, what to say, how to act? Dates are where you open yourself up to the biggest part of yourself and others. Imagine how you felt. What other event could make you feel this way? Imagine where this first day could lead – to more dates and a huge future together…or to no more dates, chalking this one up to experience.


…day at work! WOW! What a challenge in front of you? Getting to know your boss, your co-workers and maybe even your competition for the next position on the ladder. Whether it was a job at the local corner store or in that big corporate office, you started to take new steps in new directions. You shed the parts of yourself that you were not happy with and vowed to be the BEST You you could possibly be.


There will always be more firsts ahead of you – move to a new home or neighborhood, move to a new city, travel to new place, joining a community or professional group, speaking engagement, presentation – the list could go on forever! Personal growth and development is more urgent today than ever so use this list when a first comes along:


1. Be prepared: know time, place, date, how to get there, how to dress, why you are experiencing this ‘first’.


2. Plan your outlook: do you need to practice or rehearse? Do you need to wear something special? Are you in a positive frame of mind to experience the whole situation? Are you ready to be open and potentially meet new people/circumstances that could change your life?


3. Practice affirmation: no matter what the results, you will always learn something. Look for the positive in the situation. You are taking a huge step in a new direction – Way to go! Be proud of yourself and remind yourself how awesome you really are!


Be on your way to many ‘firsts’ – HAPPY FIRST….





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